REAL PEOPLE REAL ANSWERS EDITION 6

1. What’s your name? Valaira Sa-Ra Smith 

2. How old are you? Ageless 

3. Where are you from? Born in Bronx, New York City but currently reside in Atlanta, Georgia

4. What is your occupation? Actress/Model and Owner of VUE Entertainment which is a Fashion Show and Fashion Event Production Company.

5. How would you describe yourself? I would describe myself as an eccentric woman who is always reinventing herself.

6. When did you first decide to become natural? I decided to go natural in 2007. My then fiancé and soulmate sister encouraged me to go natural, so I took the plunge.

7. If there was one word to describe your style what would it be? Vintage meets Sexy Modern.

8. Who are some people that inspire you the most? Those who inspire me the most are people who defy the programs of society.  For Example Ernestine Shepherd proved you don’t have to be 75 years old unhealthy and helpless.  My Mother proved that you can stop taking diabetes pills just by changing your diet, eating right and exercising. My Husband proved that we are capable of curing ourselves! Also people who live by their own rules and are constantly creating their reality instead of chasing their dreams, inspire me!

9. What do you want to be when you grow up? Actually I am what I want to be; however I am always working towards mental growth and being better at who I am.

10. What advice would you give to others who wanted to go natural or live a more natural based lifestyle? Know that the transition is a mental one more than a physical one. Any type of change requires a change in the mind first and the rest will follow. I would also advise to research as much as possible so that you know what you are getting into and what is required. Stay motivated by following those who made the changed and are maintaining it!

11. What’s your favorite quote? "Achieve Greatness with Limitless Consciousness" - Valaira Sa-Ra Smith. Meaning, when we let go of all mental limitations that has been taught to us since birth, we realize that our limitations are only in our minds.

3 Tips on stopping an argument in its tracks :)

Be it a family member, friend or co worker....arguments are never fun....especially with those of which you love most. Below are some tips I found useful in keeping the peace :)

1) In the mist of the heat try your very best to imagine good moments with that person, or how they may have helped you in the past. In fact if you do this BEFORE the argument starts to flare up...you may avoid this collision in the first place. The goal is to dispel anger before it even occurs...this is the root of many arguments.

2) Talking in a quiet, respectable manner. It is my experience that no one...AND I DO MEAN NO ONE ...wants to have a discussion with someone who is offending them or yelling at them.  It's a thin line between a discussion or a debate and actual arguing and many times its all in the way one presents the information at hand. Try thinking very hard before you speak. Sometimes throwing a smile in at the right time may make your discussion stay just that:). Also keep in mind that once something is spoken...it can't be taken back. Use this info to make each moment as special as it can be for your loved one in the future.

3) Remove the finger pointing phase of "You" from every argument. It only fuels the flames and the person with whom you are talking has stop listening to you and is focusing on their own anger. Unfortunately this alone is very VERY hard for most people to do...but once mastered it can create a bridge of understanding between both parties involved. We are in charge of our own destiny as they say. If you don't like what someone else is doing ...take a few moments to examine how you are contributing to the environment in a negative way. As a matter of fact replacing you with "we" or focusing on how the two of you in general can create a more positive atmosphere versus the whole blame game can be a life saver in preventing arguments.

I hope this article has helped with the battle of misunderstandings that we all go through at some point with our closest loved ones. If nothing else maybe it will help you think twice before starting up some "mess" that may be very hard to clean up later in your relationships:)

By M Kyles of Kyles Natural

HAIR ENVY!!!! Need I say more....NOPE lol!!:)