8 Great Anger Manangment Tips

Look we all get a little steamed from time to time. Sometimes being angry is warranted . This article seeks to help people express their anger in more civilized manner . People can't always put on the happy face...but in order to maintain healthy relationships we must find a way to be mad in a good way;)

No. 1: Take a timeout

Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation for a while and let thing cool down a bit.

No. 2: Once you're calm, express your anger

As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

No. 3: Get some exercise

Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a nice walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.

No. 4: Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

No. 5: Identify possible solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse.

No. 6: Don't hold a grudge

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.

No. 7: Use humor to release tension

Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

No. 8: Practice relaxation skills

When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Calm down." You might also listen to music or write in a journal o — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

REAL PEOPLE REAL ANSWERS EDITION 10

A DAY IN THE LIFE

“Living Naturally You”

Real People Real Answers

 

 

 

 

What’s your name?

My name is LB Lacey.

 How old are you?

I'm 40+ years of age. (Anything more is on a “need to know” basis. LOL)

 Where are you from?

I'm originally from good ol Motown, but spent most of my adult life as a single parent in New England.

 What is your occupation?

My MA is in Holistic Counseling. I am a consultant and a writer. I am currently working on a project with a natural hair care artist in Detroit named Allen Biggers. The project is called Hairitage.

SEE: http://www.allenbiggers.com/Events.html

I am also a poet and spoken word artist.

HEAR: http://www.myspace.com/luvliwords/music/songs/her-sustenance-19361648

 How would you describe yourself?
I would describe myself as a Black Queen Loving, Laughing & Living Authentically, Unapologetically and Intentionally as the Being that God, the Creator of ALL sent me here to Be.

 When did you first decide to become natural?

I first decided to become natural after a bad encounter with a man who was my supervisor whilst working as Academic Advisor to the Freshman Class of a private university in New England. The situation was stifling and soul crushing calling something deep within to be FREE. My hair broke the barriers to freedom for me. I followed and have never looked back.

SEE: http://tiny.cc/LisasDreadfulStory

 If there was one word to describe your style what would it be?

ME.

Who are some people that inspire you the most?

Christ, Sojourner Truth, Maya Angelou, Ken Wilber, Madam CJ Walker, Oprah, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela,Michael Jackson, Marianne Williamson, Iyanla, Mother Teresa, Krishnamurti, etc.

 What do you want to be when you grow up?

eLLe Beah, Master Teacher, Healer & Servant

SEE: Powerful Regardless:
http://www.blackwomenspeak.com/speak/article.php/20070720155231343

What advice would you give to others who wanted to go natural or live a more natural based lifestyle?

Do it. Turn a deaf ear to the programmed masses who will always try to mock you and tell you that you are out of step, wrong and even insane for not copying the mold manufactured for them to graze upon. Most people or “sheople” as I call them, truly have been hypnotized and are fully engaged by the lie that how WE are authentically is inferior, unattractive or unacceptable. Pay them no mind for they have no ‘change’. Go within for that is where the True You resides... That is where you shall hear the Voice of your Creator. Seek no validation from this benighted world. Embrace who YOU are.

SEE: Lisa’s Dreadful Story published in Chicken Soup for the African American Woman’s Soul: http://books.google.com/books?id=8hp5_KeGLY8C&pg=PA140&lpg=PA140&dq=Lisa+bartley-Lacey+in+Chicken+Soup+for+the+African+American+Woman%27s+Soul&source=bl&ots=7XBeLgFzl0&sig=pjKGrZqkBYezJuNphqm0eRLo1vc&hl=en&ei=vrAMTqTfE9OGsgKNzqnwCQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2&sqi=2&ved=0CB4Q6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q&f=false

 What’s your favorite quote?
"Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny" --Mahatma Gandhi

Ya'll don't Know NOTHING bout no Lenny Williams ...sure His fro is nice but this CLASSIC is even better!!

SUPER EASY HOME MADE HAIR GEL and HAIR SPRAY RECIPES SUPER YAY!!

 HAIR GEL, HAIR MOOSE,  & HAIR SPRAY RECIPES

Welp:), you guys know im a natural everything fanatic :) So here are some more of my healthy obsessions with hair and being the natural you...EASY!!! Right from your very own hands at home;)

Homemade Hair Gel Recipe

Ingredients:

1/2 to 1 teaspoon unflavored gelatin

1 cup warm water

2 drops of your favorite essential oil

Directions:

Dissolve gelatin in 1 cup warm water. When cool add the essential oil. Keep refrigerated.

Natural homemade Hair Spray Recipe

 

Supplies

1/2 orange

1/2 lemon 

spray bottle

rubbing alcohol

Directions

Chop fruit into small pieces and place in a sauce pan with 2 cups water. Boil until reduced by half. Cool, strain, and place in a spray bottle.  Add one ounce rubbing alcohol to store at room temperature for up to two weeks.

Natural Gel Recipe for Hair

Ingredients

¾ cup water

1 tablespoon flax seed

Directions

Combine the water and flax seeds in a small pan, and bring to a boil. Simmer 15 minutes. Will start to thicken slightly. Strain out as many seeds as you can. Store in Fridge.

Natural Hairspray Recipe for Hair

Ingredients

1 tablespoon sugar

1 cup hot purified water

1 tablespoon vodka (optional, acts as a preservative)

3-5 drops essential oil of your choice (optional for smell) 

Spray bottle

Directions

Dissolve the sugar in the hot water. Stir thoroughly to dissolve, then add the vodka. Cool then add essential oil.

Now that I've shown you a natural way to keep that hair put..rest assured knowing how to pronounce every syllable from home made GEL and HAIR spray made by YOU!!!;) Happy styling people:0)

REAL PEOPLE REAL ANSWERS: MEN'S EDITION 3

A DAY IN THE LIFE

“Living Naturally You”

Real People Real Answers

 What is your name?

 Adrian (Loc Doc) Lamotte, Jr. I had a group of teens give me the nickname after some INTENSIVE repair work on one of their friends. It kind of stuck.

How old are you?

 34 

Where are you from?

Baton Rouge,La

What is your occupation?

 I'm an natural stylist specializing in the cultivation of locs.

How would you describe yourself?  

 Seasoned in all aspects of life, cautiously optimistic, and faithful.

When did you first decide to grow your locs?

 Feb 17th 2001 After having served on the military,it was an open declaration to the world that I wouldn't be simply following orders anymore.

If there was one word to describe your style what would it be?

Contrary. I tend to move in opposition to the masses.

Who are some of the people that inspire you most?

 My mother, who taught me to work hard. My father, who taught me to play hard. My wife, who taught me patience. Christ, who taught me self sacrifice.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

 Exactly what I am. A healer helping people rediscover the blessed natural beauty residing inside of them.

What advice would you give others who wanted to embrace their individuality?

 Find yourself,love yourself, and don't be afraid to show others who YOU are.

What's your favorite quote?

 "You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies."

I love the way she is so creative musically yet so Natural at the same time GONE head Janelle!!

ADVANCED NATURAL HAIR TECHNIQUES : PROTECTIVE STYLE SERIES 1

Protecting you're curls and Kinks

Going natural can be a major step for most women. Many times once we get that glorious mane we want to do everything in our power to optimize its health and protect it's growth. This is where protective styles come in super handy. Protective styles are ones that don’t . Wearing the hair in a protective style requires that the ends, the oldest and most fragile part of the, are usually tucked away and sealed with some kind of moisturizer  Some ladies will prefer to stay close to rocking fully natural hair protective hair styles ( like bantu knots, twists/twist outs, braid/braid outs, buns... all on their own hair)and even unpicked afros , while other push the envelope and add in add on to get beautiful tresses ( like full sew ins, long braids, phony pony's, heck some even use wigs as a protective style). I say whatever floats your boat do IT in the name of protecting YOUR beautiful natural hair.
     This series seeks to teach advanced techniques of hair styling to protect the growth of your natural hair. Our first edition will cover techniques using your very own natural hair. A person should be able to take from this article how to bantu knot their hair, how to use a good moisturizing base to keep a healthy un picked afro/or defined curl pattern, and finally utilizing braiding or twisting your own hair to recreate a simple french roll that can be taken down later as a twist/braid out for longer natural hair. LET'S BEGIN!!!

NOTE: For all protective styling options start with clean well moisturized hair .
SEE Toolkit for Healthy hair sucess
AND How to make your own natural hair conditioner

Protective Style 1 BANTU KNOTS

First begin with well moisturized clean hair  and part as desired as explained in " Twisting methods Part 1 the parts".
 Now proceed to two strand twist your hair with one of the parts as explained in
"Twisiting Methods Part 2".
Once you have one twist , begin to twist the single twist until you have tension in it and wrap it around itself in a circular coil . Do this until you have just enough left to tuck the end into the newly formed knot. For more secuity some may add a small black rubber band or bobby pin at the base. Repeat throughout entire head. BANTU FOR YOU now DONE!!:) After a couple weeks you can unravel your style to create beautiful curly waves as a second hair style. This style may last up to 6 weeks if protected by a satin bonnet or scarf.   For all you visual peeps here's a video of what I'm talking about.;)

Protective Style 2 Wash, Well Moisturize, and GO AFRO

This may be one of the easiest protective hair styles to do but also very useful. Sometime picking/combing/teasing. or roller setting that fro can do some serious damage over time . The best thing in this instance may be to wash and conditioner your hair and leave it be. You can opt to make your own hair gel to define some of the curls a little but thats it:) The best way to protect your hair is to leave it alone:) See vid below on making your own natural hair gel.

Protective Hair Style 3

First see How to Two strand twist natural hair
or How to braid natural hair

Now here's a fabulous video tutorial on how to do a simple french roll as a protective style for longer natural hair. After a couple weeks you can unravel either style to have a second beautiful style of wavy curly natural hair.

note: This style can be done with individual twists or braids:)

vid 2 example of twist out:)!!

Well WHEW!!! This is just a sample of protective hair styles that can be done without extensions:) More to come. Look out for part 2 of our protective hair series where we add that add on right on !!:) See you guys soon!!


By M Kyles of Kyles Natural